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Bachman on the Bench

Justice…by all and for all

At his sentencing today Ariel Castro blamed everyone from his addiction to porn to the victims themselves for his actions which led to three women suffering years of torment. rape and imprisonment.   First, it was his porn addiction, an accusation that seemed to be in every paragraph of his statement.   “I am not a monster….I am sick” he stated over and over.

The worst and most disgusting accusation was toward the victims.  Declaring that he only stopped them from leaving the house, Castro attempted to say a majority of the sex that happened between him and the victims was consensual and sometimes even they asked him for sex.  Castro also discussed that his victims were not virgins and had multiple partners.

Castro even seemed to try the crimes were not crimes at all; calling the atmosphere of the home “harmonious”, he used evidence such as the women looking “normal”  and Amanda Berry’s recent appearance “partying” that he never beat the women as they are saying.  He even turned to one of the amazing survivors Michelle Knight saying she knows “the house was harmonious”.

“All the victims are happy,” he stated.  Castro even seemed to make the capture of Gina DeJesus okay because according to him, “Nobody was looking for her.”

He even seemed to attempt to become Father of the Year when he discussed his six year old child he had with survivor Amanda Berry who is now in the custody of  her mother stating he took her to church and attempted to make sure she was not traumatized by her and her mother’s capture.

Expanding his view a bit, he then began to blame the FBI stating they interviewed her daughter when Gina DeJesus disappeared when they should have interviewed him.   “If they had questioned me….it would have ended right there.”

The only time he truly showed emotion, which was strange since he said he was such an “emotional person” was when he said he also asks himself why this happened.  He also seemed to show a bit of emotion when discussing how he believed he may have lost the daughter he had with Berry when she began complaining of toothaches knowing he couldn’t take her to the doctor; he even discussed how he could have taken her to the Emergency Room when she stopped breathing after being born in a small swimming pool.

Even while apologizing to the victims, Castro continued to defend his “harmony” filled home and returned to the accusation of his addiction.

My reflection of his entire statement: “I didn’t do it, but if I did it, it wasn’t my fault.”  His crime to him was just not allowing women to leave, not keeping them from their lives, torturing them and raping them to no end until they finally were able to escape.   Addiction or no addiction, he is a monster, rapist and I pray his hell will be worse than what he gave to those amazing women.

I am currently sitting on my couch and am about to hear Jodi Arias’ fate. Although I have not been part of the end of the case due to personal issues, I have not forgotten about Jodi and I have been keeping up via news and Nancy Grace. I prayed for Travis on the evening of his candle light vigil and know he has only died in body and not in spirit.

I am seeing Jodi now watching the judge. She looks stone faced.  GUILTY. She is now beginning to cry the tears we only saw in certain moments. Her look alike is patting her on the back.  She is now watching the verdict questions be asked and then looks back, probably to either see her mother, twitter friend, or her victim’s family.  I am so glad to hear that her lies did not make her jury’s ears. The changing stories, crocodile tears and horrid attacks against Travis’ memory sickened me as a woman, and a domestic violence fighter and victim of emotional domestic abuse.

God Bless Travis, his family, and real victims of Domestic Violence.

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Three Things Every Professional Reference Should Have

Despite the new age technology surrounding us, personal recommendations and word of mouth marketing is still king of many businesses’ profits. However, like every other marketing agenda, there is a structure and a format as to how to carry it out positively and more importantly profitably.  That being said, there are three items a professional reference should have:

A future for the referral

Why are you referring this person? What do you hope to get out of it? Having a plan to be either paid back through your own referral or services will not only affect how you refer them but also when they send a thank you and ask how they can pay you in return.  In other words, referral is like a business decision: Plan Plan Plan!  

Trust in the referred. 

It is not a secret that you are your brand no matter what field you are in. As a result, who you refer reflects both your standards and at times even your own abilities.  In fact, positive referrals especially in this economy are so highly sought after that a referral can be the difference between a consistent client and a former client.  That being said, trusting in the person you are referring that they are capable and that they can do the job you are referring them for is of extreme importance.  You should also know the referral enough to give a more detailed proposal than an elevator speech; discuss additional tidbits like a story they once told you, a client of theirs you learned about or even better an experience you had with them or their services.

 A backup referral. 

Even in this economy, some people are busy. Therefore when a referral gets one of those denial email responses, they should have another number to call immediately. This not only shows the person that you are well connected, but also that you are a resource that hopefully will be given a referral in return. 

      This economy thrives in every low cost networking option and referrals are one of the greatest assets of this.  Following the right rules of referrals will equal everything positive which they can provide.  

 

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Three Things Every Professional Reference Should Have

Despite the new age technology surrounding us, personal recommendations and word of mouth marketing is still king of many businesses’ profits. However, like every other marketing agenda, there is a structure and a format as to how to carry it out positively and more importantly profitably.  That being said, there are three items a professional reference should have:

A future for the referral

Why are you referring this person? What do you hope to get out of it? Having a plan to be either paid back through your own referral or services will not only affect how you refer them but also when they send a thank you and ask how they can pay you in return.  In other words, referral is like a business decision: Plan Plan Plan!  

Trust in the referred. 

It is not a secret that you are your brand no matter what field you are in. As a result, who you refer reflects both your standards and at times even your own abilities.  In fact, positive referrals especially in this economy are so highly sought after that a referral can be the difference between a consistent client and a former client.  That being said, trusting in the person you are referring that they are capable and that they can do the job you are referring them for is of extreme importance.  You should also know the referral enough to give a more detailed proposal than an elevator speech; discuss additional tidbits like a story they once told you, a client of theirs you learned about or even better an experience you had with them or their services.

 A backup referral. 

Even in this economy, some people are busy. Therefore when a referral gets one of those denial email responses, they should have another number to call immediately. This not only shows the person that you are well connected, but also that you are a resource that hopefully will be given a referral in return. 

      This economy thrives in every low cost networking option and referrals are one of the greatest assets of this.  Following the right rules of referrals will equal everything positive which they can provide.  

 

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Visibly upset, defendant and self proclaimed murderess Jodi Arias heard the voice of her victim, Travis Alexander. The motivational speaker sounds relaxed and quiet but what was interesting to me was how much the call actually hurt the defense.

As the members of the Alexander family wiped tears away at the sound of his voice, Arias’ involvement in the call to me screams everything but what she was hoping it portrays. Not only does it make her sound like a willing participant in what she supposedly claims was an abusive sexual relationship, but that she is both enjoying it and responding to activity with positive phrases.  Calling him “so cute” and “funny”, she shows that she is literally enjoying Alexander’s attention and happy to oblige and return the favor.

The sexual interactions as a whole, seem to be a positive in Arias life, which she shows when she stated “If it’s wrong I don’t want to be right”.  Discussing how Alexander “goes to town” she even positively discussed the supposedly attempted rape of Alexander while she was asleep; her voice enthralls enjoyment and to me spits in her own defense’s face.

What is even more strange was the statements in regards to the supposedly offending sexual interactions, she seems to discuss her interest in both them and furthering the escapades calling them “fun” and saying that she likes “being handled” and is ready for “whatever you (Travis) comes up with”, the same objective which Arias is declaring was a part of her “self defense”.  She even discusses the braids which she in a police interview denied ever being clad in.

Obviously, the defense sees this; the only part that is even discussed is the young girl comment Alexander stated. Why then was the entire call used? I do not understand how this at all helped other than to show prospective guilt by Arias’ reaction, I see no assistance in the defense and  hope the man whose voice was on that tape is resting peacefully knowing…justice will soon come.

While her attorney paced the court and attempted to become her therapist as well as her lawyer, Jodi Arias continued to attack the character of her victim Travis Alexander.  In practically the same breath of declaring the young motivational speaker was in her heart, she was not afraid to destroy his character via the stand.        

            The most disturbing event she discussed was how he had “fantasies” in which he inadvertently stated Travis treated her like a prostitute/maid who was paid with trips, cash and at times even candy.  Continuing to look up to answer then down to pout, her continual attack would have been I believe challenging to anyone who truly cared for the individual in the photos with her. 

            When she finally began to cry on the stand, to me I see the reaction to his photos with her as more as sorrow that she never got the life she really wanted with Travis and probably never was going to get, hence, in my mind the attack.  The attorney then takes the tears as a way for her to finally discuss her belief that she was her “prostitute”, a word she consistently attempted to say without saying already. 

Calling the sexual interactions “antics” she evolved into the agenda even further today; then the next agenda came in: the abusive Travis.  While I do not agree with any abuse on a woman by a man, the singular event that Arias and her attorney discussed does not, in any way, excuse Arias’ attack. 

When discussing outside relations which Travis was (as we know) doing and she was knowing about, she quietly twitched.  This to me speaks volumes that she is remembering the obvious anger of being at times replaced.  Then she goes into the jealousy of him, once again it was his fault.    

I pray this Blame Game doesn’t work on the jury’s judgement day.  As one who knows and has seen and experienced real domestic violence, I am sickened by this entire testimony.  This was in no way an abusive relationship, especially not one that deserved the attack Travis experienced on his final day. I just pray the jury sees this.

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Nicely dressed in a professional manner, Jodi Arias took the stand again to discuss how her past with her victim Travis Alexander and others forced her to defend herself against the Mormon inspirational speaker.   However, before we speak on today, let me  discuss a few factors that definitely did not help her yesterday.

First, when she discussed meeting Travis she said she was “intoxicated” by his success and the success of others in the organization formerly known as Pre-Paid Legal.  this did not help her because this shows her she wanted the life he was beginning to create.  Again….the obsession we all know she had.  She even became a bit giggly when discussing the banquet where one of the most infamous photos of her and her victim in evening wear. 

Staying on the agenda of her statements, there were also moments when she literally attempted to restate obviously leading questions of her own lawyer.   While she talked more to the jury, she seemed to evade their eyes when both discussing Travis’ sexual involvement with her as well as interactions with him. Either looking down or looking literally passed the twelve individuals, to me this screams both acting and lying.  

The most disturbing statement she made yesterday was one that I could tell was entering into the victim agenda, another straw the jury was attempting to reach at.  “I am not accustomed to saying no” was a response to a question regarding an early sexual experience with Travis; she not only opened the door (or reopened according to some experts) but also to hammering another nail in the coffin of Travis’ reputation.  

This is of course when she had the ability to remember things. After a full day of being literally the reincarnation of a Chatty Cathy doll, she yesterday began to have trouble “explaining” and discussing aspects. She literally wants us to believe we can remember when she went to high school but not just a few years ago.  Another collection of lies from a woman who is making Casey Anthony look like a novice.

One instance that occurred yesterday believe it or not shocked me greatly: When she went to a park with Travis after he said he was “horny”, she had him enter her car after leaving his and did not know what was going to happen next.  How innocent is she attempting to be? More importantly, how stupid does she think our society is to believe her.

She also yesterday began the alleged mistreatment of her victim.  Discussing his hot and cold “playing” with her he was doing, from not introducing her to only fully being interactive over the phone, Travis’ reputation is being destroyed at the hopes of her freedom.  She continued today tearing him and not even giving the respect of the family by looking up.  

Not only during the photos of what was allegedly Travis’ erection, but discussing the sexual encounters, she attempted to play the victim even to the point of, to me, attempting to say she was at times an unwilling recipient who was “conflicted” to reciprocate things such as the photo.  

In the end, it was literally a free therapy session for Jodi and we are just here for her own ride.  While there was whispers that the alleged tape would be played today, it wasn’t.  To me I feel that this Hail Mary is failing moment after moment. We will see in the end if it made any impact, but personally, I don’t see it. 

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